The attraction in new

New, different, better. You have hardly finished the one thing, or it has to change again. What is all this restless wandering about? When you have read more of this site, the answer will come as no surprise to you: your personality, of course. But why?

Your personality cannot make this world really work for you in a way that you are really content with it (see e.g. the columns on "the origin of your personality). Now we tend to become aware of that faster and faster. When you are heading for something new, your personality can make you believe that "then" everything will be different and better. But when you have reached that moment, it is likely to fail to live up this expectation soon and thus lose its attraction for you: this too did not bring you what you really wanted. Okay, then let's head for the next change, preferably immediately, and let it usurp your attention as much as possible so that you will not start to wonder what's really going on here.

The one person has it with moving, the other person with reorganizations. The third person with cloths, yet another one with furniture or partners, there is an endless series of choices here.

Another option is to use a defence mechanism against change, rather than going with the flow. For example through holding on to the present situation. Become rigid, not wanting to change. As change implies uncertainty, and especially when you think the way it is now is acceptable to you, you may not be interested in any extra work at all, including unpleasant effects and uncertainty about the outcome. So your personality may advise you to rather put your energy into defending your present situation against change.

"Old" in itself can also hold out some attraction for you. I myself do not have experience with that, but I can see it around me: the past is somehow safe, it has already been accomplished, and it has proven not to be perfect. Older things no longer contain the illusion that they are perfect nor that they are an ultimate solution to something, and that takes away a lot of pressure. Now your personality can make something as beautiful as possible out of something on which we all agreed beforehand that it cannot be perfect through its age alone. Even the process of perceiving someone or something aging is a thing that your personality may use to entertain the idea of affection as well.

You see, all these points of view are fuelled by your personality. Facing situations through the eyes of your inner Self and living through them, can help you to break this vicious circle. If you are interested in how to do that, then check out other inspiring columns here on the site.