Honesty

Honesty is usually seen as a desirable characteristic or behaviour. Let's take a closer look at how your personality uses it. Honesty is about: show, tell, make known what is really going on within you, it also should give your story of what has happened or is about to happen or how things 'are' an air of objectivity and the impression that nothing is held back.

When you are honest with other people, you at least skip the part where you could experience the tension within yourself that is about to occur when you communicate things in a different way than originally interpreted by your personality. You then place the source of your tension outside yourself, and it is likely that now other people experience this tension or will call it forth in relation with you. This may serve as an example: you open up to someone and tell how you really feel or what you did, and often enough there the trouble starts for the other person.

The advantage of someone being honest with you is, that even if the result may be unpleasant to your personality, now he knows where he stands. This means that he can now be 'sure' there are no hidden issues or unpleasant surprises lurking, that he does not have to be suspicious or alert, that he is neither manipulated, made a fool of, or pointed in the wrong direction by someone who is lying to him. In short: what he perceives is 'the truth'. From there he can react to this honesty any way he likes: with a very direct response or in more subtle ways, although honesty is usually 'rewarded' with an attack which is not as intense as the one that might be expected when you would have found out afterwards or in another way.

Not being honest, on the other hand, is a way of avoiding resp. controlling. You consciously twist the truth from how you know it, to avoid unpleasant experiences and reactions or to be able to have a situation evolve the way you want it. For example say that you like something when this is not true. Not being honest can be a fine escape to be used when you have no energy left to 'fight' the fight that is likely to come up when you áre honest.
When people are not honest in relation to you, your personality does not feel comfortable, since he automatically realizes this means there are certain aspects of himself or his reactions that are not accepted or appreciated and therefore avoided by other people; that he is left out or being manipulated, so it cannot be avoided: he is not accepted here.

Honesty is a word your personality prefers to interpret in a creative way, and such that the outcome is what serves him best. It also focuses the attention on the form of the message and whether it was complete, both factors your personality gladly uses to strengthen and uphold himself.

For your process of increasing awareness it does not matter in itself whether or not you are honest, it is about what you use it for. Speaking your mind about something can make you more aware of how your personality sees things. And when this is followed by the conscious choice not to make this a truth in itself and instead use it to let go, you have used it in line with this process of awareness. However, so can nót being honest be used for the same purpose. Be consciously aware in the process where your personality chooses to be dishonest about something and what he uses this for, and you may then make the same conscious choice to no longer strengthen this within yourself.