Gossip

What is the attraction for a personality of looking into other people's lives? Gossip magazines and many tv programs make it their core business, however, many normal contacts are filled with it as well.

Personalities have a lot to hide, especially weaknesses, errors and things which do not make them look too well, and these insights preferably are not widely spread. Also, certain events and plans are kept to themself, as well as certain reaction mechanisms.

This kind of publications, stories and programs now undermine the image and protection of this personality, and you get a better view on things that the other person, according to the judgment of your personality, is likely to want to keep hidden for your eyes. Now this weakens the other person, since you now know something of him that he rather would not want you to know. Or you know something that we normally do not share, like more details of a persons body, relationship, his reactions under pressure etc. The ideal picture is likely to show some cracks because of this. And this means that you automatically are 'stronger', and to your personality this is a great feeling, especially when it concerns people who are higher on the social ladder or score better on the popularity scale, in comparison with whom your personality feels less anyway.

It is easy scoring for him, and it gives you the idea of being in charge more, and 'know what is going on', because you know more of others. And when you are a regular reader, viewer or listener, it is even like you know the other person, even without having to interact with him or her personally, you 'know' the other person through its reactions on others, however not in relation to you, which is a very safe way to believe to have a 'relationship' with someone! Especially showbiz people who make it their profession to show a pretty picture to others are an easy target for this, however, it applies to your boss, the neighbors, etc. as well. And it does not matter what the other person thinks of it all, and whether or not he has sought publicity deliberately, your own reaction is what matters to you, however if you like, you can use it for becoming aware of yet another aspect of your personality.

Your inner Self is the level where you are not completely separated from others, when you notice that you are going through the process as described above, then simply become thoroughly aware of what it is that your personality is doing here, without judging yourself for it. Then focus your awareness on your inner Self, in order to show yourself what it is that you really want to use your mental space for.