Focus and concentration

From the wide variety of input, you choose certain aspects to focus your attention on, or to deal with. A focus thus is a nice and acceptable way to separate yourself from a great part of your surroundings. Like it can be pleasant for you to watch tv and not having to face all the issues of your household, or having to realize that you are actually alone. Or when you work with your computer or your hobby, they all have the same effect: you can withdraw into a world of your own for a while, where your personality is in charge, and where the ingredients are likely to result in a pleasant experience. Or give you a break from your frantic thoughts through focusing on something that usurps your full attention for a while, or offers alternative input. Concentration has the same effect, it is what you do when you focus "well", then you really focus on one thing and do not want to be distracted.

The choice to focus implies chances that you will be disturbed. And depending on how eager your personality is to focus on the subject of his choice, and who the person is that disturbs him, his reaction will be more or less intense. So this is a nice and extra guard dog function for your personality that automatically arises from the process of choosing: as soon as you choose the one aspect, the balance is disturbed, and now there is "another" side as well, that can be a threat to you.

A focus can also help you to avoid having to face the things that you are about to perceive whenever you stop focusing. Your personality is likely to make you believe that a focus or concentration are absolutely necessary in certain situations. Seen from the perspective of your personality this is a logical thing: whenever you are distracted through all kinds of input around you, it is much more difficult to learn something for example. There is not a real opposite to focusing. The alternative is an experience that is not about time, and does not consist of special ingredients, but are about the wholeness of the experience itself. Like the endless summers in your childhood. It does not follow the laws of your personality either. It is more about "being" and "knowing", rather than about doing, learning and other personality stuff.

Now experience is not a neutral word, and as far as your personality is concerned, its interpretation should preferably be about pleasant ones. This holds the basis for its control: your personality now will try to make sure that you will have as many pleasant experiences as possible, and if he cannot succeed in that, he will distract you through focusing, alcohol, smoking or other ways to make sure that you will not experience this failure of him in full. You fear to face what it is that you will perceive when you do not focus, because then you will see what the world of your personality is really about, and that is not a very pretty sight. It would also mean that your personality is out of work, and that certainly is not one of his preferences.

Every time when you notice that your are focusing, become more aware of it. That is a good start to decrease the grip of your personality with regard to this issue. And do not be surprised to find that your personality actually hates people and situations that do not have a likewise distraction pattern, because that makes it so obvious to you that it is all about choice and now your personality can no longer hide that from you.