Falling in love

The sweet period of new love when you have met someone and you dare to highly open up to the experience of Love. Where you simply shuffle aside all kinds of rules, judgments and logic you usually entertain and fully 'go' for this very attractive experience. This must somehow be related to your inner Self, where your personality somewhat disappears in the background.

What you see in a period like this is what happens when you do so all of a sudden, and wipe away your personality in an instant. Then the difference is so huge, that you yourself and the rest of the world know this is not 'normal'. For a while, your focus actually switches from one side (personality) to the other side (Self). The attraction of Love is so intense, that everything else has to step aside for it.

Being in love ends. Be it only through your everyday life experiences, which keep on calling on your personality to be the leading principle in your life, in which he will succeed sooner or later, even in the new relationship. You are likely to start relating the experience of love to things the other does or does not do, etc. That is the moment where love becomes conditional, loses her spontaneity, is limited, and the radiance which once was there in your relationship, starts to disappear.

Even though the pleasant feeling of being in love is an experience which is much more related to your inner Self, the drastic way in which it is called forth is not one that is representative for the normal process of increasing Awareness. That is likely to be more one step at a time, thus allowing you to embed it in your everyday life as a natural thing, and it also allows you to not have to lose it if you do not want to, since you face the mechanism which lies at the basis of it and consciously choose to no longer invest any energy in it.

Falling in love can be seen as a temporary situation, related to a special person, where you decrease the amount of attention for your personality (which is a form of forcing, and is likely to bounce back at you sooner or later), increasing Awareness is a continuous process, not limited to special persons or relationships, where you actually face your personality and let go of it, which is a form of transformation.