Making choices

Whenever your personality makes a choice, he will do so based on arguments, reasoning, logic, desired results, obligations, things that seem unavoidable, etc. And since he cannot know whether or not the results of his choice will be realized and/or be successful, he automatically introduces feelings of uncertainty, until he can be quite sure of a reasonable acceptable outcome. Uncertainty calls forth the need for attention, focus, commitment, justification and control, which ensures that your personality will have plenty to do here in this process which follows the initial choice.

A choice you make based on your inner Self is as simple as asking yourself the question: what is it that I should do here. For a start, this introduces the idea that you admit that your familiar ways and logic cannot provide you with an answer which guarantees the best for everybody involved, both directly and indirectly. It also calls forth a focus on something élse than the familiar one of your personality to make a choice, thus automatically introducing the need for a different kind of outcome. And, probably without your conscious awareness of the exact goal, you will find that there are steps to be taken which will gently come into your awareness. Perhaps you are inspired to go somewhere, meet someone, do or say something, or maybe you read something that was exactly what you needed.

This is a process you cannot control or call forth. Your inner Self has its own way of Being, which often enough asks for faith in the individual steps you are inspired to, rather than knowing the overall process where it will lead you. Although, when you look back later, it is very likely that you will recognize the beauty of the process and how good it has been for you and others involved, and you will not be able to imagine a better way. So you need to learn to trust that your inner Self knows what is best for you - and who else would know perfectly what is needed to move through the process of increasing remembrance of who you really Are. Should you believe that this means that your life is going to be successful and fulfilling according to the standards of your personality, then you've encountered a fine piece of personality humor: do not really change anything, yet meet the yearning for your inner Self. Your inner Self is about accepting what is happening and seeing the beauty and perfection of the awareness it brought you, rather than being concerned with the form of the outcome.

The goals of your personality are different from those of your inner Self. This does not necessarily imply that you do things differently or not do them at all, however, it does mean that the intention that inspires them and the awareness that you gain from them, will vary greatly. Your inner Self is likely to surprise you with a point of view your personality would not have come up with, a feeling of certainty and knowing, a 'coincidence', intense inner Peace, new insights etc.

Do keep in mind that a question you are posing, might not be a valid one, and that nothing need to happen simply because you brought it to mind. You might ask a hundred questions, but that does not mean that even one of them has to be relevant. So include in your process of awareness the recognition that no answer simply means that there is nothing to do for you.

In case you want to decrease the grip of your personality with regard to choosing or the process that follows from there, you could write down everything your personality believes he has to come up with with regard to this issue. This ensures that he has the idea that he is 'heard' and this means he does not have to put any energy in getting attention for his point of view anymore. You will notice that this simple trick can make a huge difference (and tear the paper apart when you are finished, you do not need it in itself, it has had its function already).

Ultimately, the idea of choice is a personality attempt to get a grip on the process of inspiration of your Self.