Will this make me a better person?
"Better" is a judgment, so this is a question that is likely to stem from your personality. Still, quite some remarks can be made, because it is likely that changes will occur when you become more aware of your personality and learn to no longer strengthen it.
When you claim responsibility for your own experiences and interpretations, that usually is a huge change in the way you used to be part of relations and situations. So it is likely that you and the people you deal with, will notice this. For example because you no longer put your efforts in blaming, judging, controlling, convincing, your will has to happen, being right etc.
By investing less energy in maintaining thought patterns of your personality, "space" will become available "in your head". That is a pleasant experience, and this too is likely to be noticed by you and the people around you.
When you experience less tension and stress, your need for escapes (numbing, distraction, take it out on someone) from these feelings diminish also. Your need for being confirmed in your points of view and the energy you put in all kinds of ways in which you tried to distinguish yourself from other people, will also decrease.
On the other hand, your personality is likely to become increasingly grumpy when you continue with this, not only because you now become more and more aware of the fact that his points of view do not bring you anything you really want and that he cannot hide that from you any longer, but also because he does not get as much attention as he used to. This too will not remain unnoticed,
and this is likely to express itself in ways you do not label "pleasant". It also has a tendency to be there more intense and frequent than you prefer. The process of making the choice between your personality and your inner Self is not only very energy-consuming, as far as the part of your personality is concerned, it is also likely to induce tensions and sensitivities. And to make it all a bit worse, you may recon on it that your personality will try to use these ideas to strengthen himself, especially
in the beginning when you are not too familiar with the differences between him and your Self anyway. This too is not a thing that makes it a pleasant experience.
Also it does not mean that you get any "better" in the work that you do, or more successful. As that is not subject of your focus, that should not surprise you. What will change is the intention with which you do your job, and thus your experiences will change, only now you use business situations to open up for the extra dimension of becoming aware and letting go. You might expect a bit more creativity
though, because it is now easier for you to open up for other input than the one your personality comes up with.
An important issue here is, that your personality wants you to believe that when he does not control the situation for you, nothing will happen anymore, you will only live for yourself, etc. Actually, the opposite is true. You are about to let go more and more of the limitations your personality has put on yourself and the world, and are likely to enter into more general and universal
experiences and inspiration through your inner Self. The difference between the will of your personality and what really happens, disappears. You will know that it is all-right (= neutral) as it is, and will use any situation for increasing awareness of your inner Self. You then may or may not find yourself involved in some follow-up on that situation, but you let the inspiration for that action come from your inner Self, rather than from the interpretations and assumptions of your personality.
You will become more and more aware that in every situation you are part of a total experience, and that when you try to limit the other to his personality, you automatically do the same for yourself, and you are less and less willing to do so.
In the eyes of the world of personalities you are "good" when you, for example, help other people, work as a volunteer, are environmentally conscious, are nice, etc. Now the only thing this really does, is make you a person who does activities and shows behaviour to the world that is judged as positive by that same world. But how often have you shown the world a socially acceptable face, while your
real feelings were totally different? Who you really are is much more about your willingness to become aware of the original thought patterns and the intention from which your actions stem: do they strengthen your personality or your inner Self (and that of others). Every situation will do to practice this, whether it is labeled "nice" or "positive" or "unpleasant" or "wrong".
You should not expect the people around you to welcome the above changes. Your familiar patterns change, and other people will need time to adjust to that. When, for example, you break through your pattern of blaming others, the people around you may well be a bit confused and suspicious for a while. And maybe they do not like it at all that you start to question all kinds of things which interpretations
you used to share, even though you do not ask them to change and let them free. The advantage in it is, that letting go means that you do not replace the one point of view for another one, it is more like a neutral position. This in itself will not invite attack, it simply "is", and you will notice that an eventual response will not stick to it, especially when you can deal with it wholly through your inner Self. And the experiences you get will vary per person. My personal experience was not one
of immense changes in outer situations or relations, rather an internal one.
And your own experiences? You will experience an increasing inner peace, that does not depend on outer circumstances, and is such an attractive feeling in itself that that is enough for you to move on. You no longer feel the need to do all kinds of "extra things" to pretend to be who you are not, or want to influence others, because the origin of those ideas and feelings is disappearing.
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